It's always been a very hard thing for me to share my problems with other people and to ask others for help. Anecdotally, I used to sometimes tell people that this was rooted in the fact that when I was a kid and I used to ask my dad for help with homework, he would mock me in a high-pitched voice, saying "I can't do it! I'm just a girl!" Of course, that was my dad's way of encouraging me to be self-sufficient, and while that I am, I suspect that this is more of an innate personality trait than a result of his parenting techniques.
Anyway, that being said, I am now dumping the biggest problem I have ever had on a tremendous number of people. I sent the URL for this blog to a lot of people, including many with whom I have a relationship that I would characterize as primarily professional rather than personal. I even posted it on my Facebook account.
Going so public with this was not easy for me, but it was a calculated decision. Basically, my thinking was that even if I don't know you very well, if I think I might run into you a year from now, and you might innocently ask "how's the baby?" I think it's only fair to prepare you in advance for what might be the answer.
3 weeks ago